Introverts – lonely or self satisfied.

/ Rishabh Dwivedi


Every day from the dusk till dawn, we live in a world that is inevitable and can’t be taken out of the equation. Every decision we make whether it’s about us, our career or even about our families, in some way, is decided by the society’s view on it and according to which being normal, means to perform in the circus of life with judges seeing you even behind your back. Now, if a person decides to opt for self-happiness instead or if a person becomes introvert is that normal? Or he is just giving excuses for his loneliness? Let’s talk about it.

What does being an Introvert in India mean?

Introverts or the concept of space, this has come to light mainly in the last five years or so. The more I was doing research, the more I was getting convinced by the fact that hordcore introvertism is just a mere concept and no one is a cent percent introvert.

But, at the same time we can absolutely say that a person can be an introvert as it is now a part of their personality and if they find their peace and happiness on their own, there’s nothing wrong in that. Well most of you may agree on a personal level but JUST LOOK OUT, It’s INDIA.

The country where we are taught the philosophy of “vasudhaiva kutumbakam”,The world is one big family, and family don’t leave each other alone we’re together everywhere, I mean literally everywhere and this lack of space, I really don’t know if it’s good or bad but it’s the opposite of the idea of introvertism and this concept, this idea is not welcomed in india at all.

Just let it be, I’m happy.

But are we really lonely?

Many say: ” You just hide your frustration, failure and loneliness on a personal and social level by saying you’re an introvert.”
It sounds true but is it?
I mean frustration and failure is part of every human being’s life and most of them don’t show it, at least willingly but are they all introverts, I don’t think so.
The point of being single, it’s not the same as being lonely.

Famous comedian and co-founder of AIB, Rohan Joshi once said in an interview,
” I would rather sit on my couch in pajamas with my friends watching Netflix than take a headache to get dressed up for a date. ” In the same interview comedian Ashish Shakya, another co-founder of AIB said:”The perfect one is not a reality“,

The context was totally funny but the point was it’s no longer a big deal, being single or being sakt is considered cool nowadays, so to say, “hey man you’re not introvert and all you’re single and that’s the problem” Or “Man, he/she just left me, I no longer wanna go out and meet someone”. Those days are long gone we are always surrounded by someone or the other if nothing, your phone only but you’re never alone. Lonely or not, that’s something else but being single or someone dumping you should not be the reason for you to turn into an introvert

I’m not lonely.

Some general facts

  • A country that is called Lithuania has about 55.6% of its population at home or Alienated, I mean introverts and there is also a country called Nicaragua which is literally a family or socialites as 57.49%of them are extremely extroverted or social.
  • In a survey, we found that 61% of artists are introverts and about 18%of them are strictly introverts during their creative process.
  • France, one of the most visited countries in the world, is 3rd on the list of most introverted countries.
  • Countries like the USA or INDIA, are not even in the top 10 of extrovert or introverts list.
  • Extroverts make more money than introverts by about 8% and introverts travel a lot. .
I try, but just it be.

Self love and introverts

There is a famous saying that first, love yourself and everything else falls behind. Or “you can only achieve something if you like yourself first. ” OR ” You’re completely complete”. There are lots and lots of quotes, highlighting the importance of self love but to believe in something, you’re not required to necessarily love it.

Self love and self satisfaction, they are two different aspects of introvertism that are often mixed up when we speak about it. Self love is loving yourself and caring about yourself in your emotions not needing someone else in your life at a personal level but it has nothing to do with going out or being introverted but self satisfaction on the other hand is being fulfilled by oneself on a personal, emotional and social level.

Like they say:”You are self satisfied with what you have and don’t want anything new whether it’s a person or emotion”
So, in my opinion the idea of introverts is more connected to self satisfaction than self love.

What’s wrong in that.

Conclusion

After all these statements one can sure say that it’s their choice. To be extra active or to be subtle, it’s their choice. To take a break and have space it’s their choice. As we respect every culture, at least according to the Constitution we must respect introverts also and not demean or make fun of them.
France, as we spoke, is an introvert country, but The French Republic is also a tourism based country. They respect this new culture and grow alongside it then why can’t we. It may seem like a small issue, but the want of space and the need of respect is as important as anything else.

5 thoughts on “Introverts – lonely or self satisfied.”

  2. Good written and beautifully potrayed
    Also , I want to add that introverts are best in noticing things because an extrovert will be busy in various other useless things but an introvert will always notice the person behaviour and also all the other important things that one should notice.

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  3. Good wriiten and beautifully potrayed.
    I would like to add one thing about introverts that if they are notgood at social life but they are excellent in noticing .Like an extrovert will be busy in other useless things but an introvert willbe very good at their noticing important things.

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